The most effective habit!

We are always taking actions even if it doesn’t look like.

For example if I want to earn 30,000 bucks this month. This is my goal. Then every moment I have the choice to take actions that take me towards these goals or to take actions that take me away from them. As Mark Joyner says, “There is no such things as procrastination and laziness. These words are based on an assumption there is no action involved”. But an action like lying down on the bed, dreaming about your goals is also an action. An ineffective action, but an action it is. The impact of the action is that dreaming about my goal rather than working on it is gonna bring stress in my life. The stress will reduce my energy levels and in turn my goal-fulfilling capacity.

So the most effective habit that I can ever build is – “To take actions that take me closer to my target instead of taking actions that take me farther away from them“.

A corollary is – “To take actions that increase my power rather than to take action that decrease my power“.

These two habits have been copied from Joyner’s Simpleology 101 program.

This habit in essence is “the ability to take the hard right instead of the easy wrong“. Every time I take a strengthening decision, I reach closer to my goals. Also it becomes easier for me to take a strengthening decision again. Similarly, every time I take a weakening decision, I move farther away from my goals and my ability to take a strengthening decision becomes harder.

The interesting thing is, we are making this choice all the time. At any specific point of time, we can answer the question – “Is doing whatever I am doing right now (or about to start), taking me (gonna take me) closer to my goal or farther away from my goal”. This question is valid all the time.

I gotta make this habit the no 1 habit in my life. It has to be practiced moment by moment. And I am all charged up to follow it through.

Inspired by this habit I am taking on taking strengthening decisions over the following 3 habits of mine :-

1. Watching Porn. Nothing wrong in it objectively, but I somehow have a 1 to 1 correspondence between watching porn and depression . I take on saying no, every time the urge comes.
2. Over sleeping. When the going gets tough, I get sleeping.
3. Not working my plan. I have built this good habit of planning my work. And this bad habit of not working my plan. I will start taking the strengthening decision of working my plan every time I plan it. And learning from experiences every time I fail to work it out.

Thats it.

So I have a goal of waking up at 5 AM every morning. And its already 12.50 now, so I gotta take the strengthening decision of hitting the sack fast.

This post took me 19 minutes to write. I had set a goal of completing it in 7 minutes. It does not qualify to be a bullet post. Lesson learned – “Always think of what to write before setting the target to complete the post”.

I am so lost and goddamn irratated.

Today has been full of breakdowns. There is nothing wrong there but, I am still irritated.

First, I wake up on time and go back to sleep again. Then Soniya wakes me up and I go back to sleep again. Then I wake up at 11.30 in a good mood (As I said, I don’t abuse myself anymore). I quickly finish reading “Surely you are joking Mr Feynman” (there were just about 20+ pages left). I have an orange for my breakfast for I wanted to have a proper lunch at least. Then I check my mail and get a bomb from HSBC. They say that my credit card has been canceled and they’ll be taking legal action. And that I’ll have to pay for the legal expenses as well. Now I am already struggling with my finances and I don’t want to borrow money… but goddamn it. Paying the card money is also important. There has been a lot of confusion with a Rs. 10000 balance transfer from SBI to HSBC. And all the while I have been blaming HSBC for improper conduct. I have spoken to their officials several times and gone to their bank once. But earlier this month, I was informed in my statement that no money has been transferred from SBI and HSBC are not completely at fault.

Anyways, I do have to pay my remaining Rs 13,000 or so immediately. Because the interest rate on the outstanding amount is very high. I had decided not to borrow any money. But now I’ll need to do that. I have had enough experience with generating money to know that this kind of an amount can’t be made in a week’s time doing what I know to do. There are ways, but I wont be able to go home if I follow them. Its such a small situation and it is already giving me the creeps. Come to think about what will happen when I have my own company and the pressure will by 100 times literally!

Ok, coming back to my senses, I chose not to allow these circumstances to get better of me. I’ll speak to my dad, ask him to pay for my credit card.  I’ll still take on the game of generating some amount of money to take care of my expenses. I’ll make an action plan around that tonight. I’ll go and talk to the placement cell of my college and propose to be their partner in securing 100% placements. I’ll follow up on the mail that I had sent them regarding  a placement training program.

Well there were other breakdowns as well. But its time for action right now. I’ll straightaway go and update my organizer and start executing my plan.

I gotta be powerful and make winning my habit. Its a long long way to go! But I have taken my first steps.